It is amazing how long former spouses can hold a grudge and exhibit pettiness, particularly when one spouse is obliged by court order to make spousal support payments to the other. The resentment that builds up when one spouse believes the other does not deserve to be supported can lead to piddly antics, such as the behaviour exhibited by New Jersey divorcee Diane Wagner, age 57.
Ms. Wagner claimed that she did not have sufficient funds to contest her husband’s claim for spousal support so she consented to pay him $744 a month for six years. However, it was apparent that her payments were made begrudgingly as evidenced by the notations she wrote on the cheques, such as “bum”, “loser”, “adult child support” and she even used the acronym “FOAD”. (If you don’t know what that means better ask one of your teenagers).
Her ex-husband’s lawyers found it amusing enough to post a comment and a copy of one cheque on Facebook, whiting out her last name and street address. Several months later Ms. Wagner received a letter from her husband’s lawyers advising that their client, Francis Wagner Jr., age 61, had suffered “sustained heart attacks in recent weeks” due to the emotionally disturbing comments on her alimony cheques and that if she continued they would file a lawsuit against her for “intentionally inflicting emotional distress”.
Ms. Wagner gave a media interview suggesting she could write anything she liked on the cheque saying “I was the victim in that marriage. What more blood does he want from me? I pay him religiously”. She also claimed that when she discovered the Facebook posting, she too suffered emotional distress.
Yeah, I know all of this is hard to believe coming from mature adults. Nonetheless, last week Mr. Wagner’s lawyers filed the lawsuit they had threatened.
I can’t figure out why a self-respecting lawyer would agree to file such a stupid lawsuit. The Wagners both need to be told to “grow up and get a life!”
Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang
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I have learned since I have started doing Oklahoma Divorce Forms, that women especially can be very vindictive. I have had many women want to have things listed on their decree’s that limit who the father can even be around when they have the children, including when they pick them up etc. For instance, there can’t be any other women around. I just politely let them know that I can list that if they like, but most likely the judge won’t sign having that included. Usually the need for the divorce overrides the need for vindictiveness.