Guest Post: 50 Shades of Grey Boycott

In 1990, the highly successful film “Pretty Woman”, took theatres by storm with the highest ticket sales in history for a romantic comedy.

Today, the film’s cultural impact on a whole generation has been significant, swapping the brutal and exploitive nature of prostitution with glamour and romance. Many of the young people that I talk to about human trafficking tell me their sole impression of prostitution is based on Pretty Woman.

This past Valentine’s Day, another film arrived to warp the minds of a new generation. “50 Shades of Grey”, a film based on the bestselling book of the same name, is being portrayed as a ‘date night’ movie of romance and intrigue. Except that the movie (and the book) is about humiliation, degradation, and the emotional and physical abuse of women by men.

The fairy-tale ending of the film, just like Pretty Woman, is one that millions of victims of sexual violence never experience. As one survivor of sexual violence shared “50 Shades is a horrible reminder of my own abusive relationship, repackaged as a ‘love story’”.

Nevertheless, 50 Shades of Grey will convey to countless women that abuse and coercion can be romantic, and to men that deep down women like to be controlled and assaulted.

Many supporters of 50 Shades of Grey claim that female lead, Anastasia, always consented to the abuse. However consent, under physical or psychological duress is not consent. It’s no different for prostituted women. Many of them have often shared with me that, until separated from their abusive pimp or trafficker, they ‘consented’ to selling sex.’

Even Jamie Dornan, the lead actor playing Christian Grey, was uncomfortable with the nature of the character saying: “There were times when Dakota was not wearing much, and I had to do stuff to her that I’d never choose to do to a woman.”

Jamie also revealed that while he has “played a couple of sick, sick dudes, serial killers…and characters who don’t treat women the way society deems appropriate, Christian was a massive challenge.” (Editor’s note: See British show “The Fall” on Netflix where Jamie plays a serial killer and rapist)

Despite the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, leading women’s rights advocates are speaking out. Dr. Gail Dines, a professor at Boston’s Wheelock College, and Megan Walker, Executive Director of the London Abused Women’s Centre, have joined forces to launch the #50dollarsnot50shades campaign encouraging people to donate the money they would have spent on 50 Shades of Grey to a women’s shelter instead. This is an important campaign and an excellent opportunity to raise awareness about sexual violence.

Today, we have come a long way in Canada when it comes to women’s equality and rights. So it is critical that we continue to cultivate a society that affirms the value and dignity of women and sends a clear message that sexual violence is never romantic or acceptable.

We can start by boycotting a film that glamourizes abuse and exploitation and instead support the survivors of sexual violence and women’s shelters in our communities.

We cannot allow 50 Shades to influence another vulnerable population of youth like Pretty Woman. The cost is too high.

The Honourable Joy Smith, B.Ed., M.Ed.
Member of Parliament
Kildonan – St. Paul

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Disclaimer

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environmentally safe, socially responsible, low stress, non addictive, and gender

neutral celebration of the winter solstice holiday as practiced within the most

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for the religious or secular persuasions and/or traditions of others or for their

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AND FURTHER for a fiscally successful, personal fulfilling, and

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(including, but not limited to, the Christian calendar, but not

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Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Lawyers’ Christmas Card Greetings

Just for fun, I’ll set out the sentiments from a few lawyers’ Christmas cards:

1. Picture an intense lawyer grilling Santa Claus on the witness stand:

“I’ll ask you again sir, did you or did you not look at my client, and in a crowded shopping mall, in front of her children, call her not once, but three times… a ho?”

2. A lawyer making closing submissions in court:

“The evidence will clearly show that my client, Mr. Claus, was not the driver of the sleigh the night that Grandma, as the charges read, “got run over by a reindeer”.

3. This time it’s a sleigh full of reindeer being pulled by Santa Claus:

“Our lawyers sure know how to negotiate an employment contract.”

4. Husband reading a Christmas card to his wife:

“Honey, our lawyer wishes us, but in no way guarantees a Merry Christmas”

5. Child sitting on Santa’s lap in a department store:

“Actually my legal counsel has advised me to plead the 5th with respect to “naughty or nice”.”

6. Santa standing outside the front door of a home on Christmas Eve
with his lawyer:

“My client would like you to sign this waiver before he descends your chimney.”

7. A lawyer sitting on Santa’s lap in a department store, reading his Christmas
wish list:

“Sympathetic judges, evidence that is irrefutable, friendly juries, no hostile witnesses.”

8. Young boy sitting on Santa’s lap in a department store:

“As to your question “Were you a good boy?”, my attorney tells me I have the right to remain silent.”

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Political Correctness Leads to “Merry Christmas” Laws

GEO_edited-1Texas governor Rick Perry signed a new law in 2013 called the “Merry Christmas” law. The new law protects Christmas and other holidays in Texas’ public schools from legal challenges.

The law was initiated when Representative Dwayne Bohac learned that his son’s school had erected a “holiday” tree, as the word “Christmas” was banned in the school for fear of attracting litigation. Mr. Bohac remarked that the exclusion of any reference to Christmas at public schools was “political correctness run amok”.

The Christmas controversy, called the “War on Christmas” by Fox News’ Bill O’Reilly, has taken a variety of forms.

In 2005 the City of Boston erected a “holiday tree” that incensed the Nova Scotia farmer who supplied the tree to Boston. He said he would rather put the tree in a wood chipper than put up with misguided political correctness.

Nativity scenes were barred in public schools in New York in 2002, a position that prevailed when the public school authorities were sued.

In 2007 a public school in Ottawa caused alarm when the word “Christmas” was excised from the school choir’s rendition of “Silver Bells” and replaced with the word “festive”. A few years later another public school in Ontario cancelled their Christmas concert and replaced it with a winter craft fair and concert in February.

Major American big-box chain stores have also been subject to criticism. Sears, Home Depot, Kmart, Target, Walmart, and others who left out the word “Christmas” in their marketing material acceded to pressure from customers and Christian lobby groups to reinstate the name of the religious statutory holiday.

Meanwhile Texas has led the way for “Merry Christmas” laws in Alabama, Tennessee, and Missouri with bills awaiting enactment in several other American states.

As for me, I say both “Merry Christmas” and “Happy Hannukkah”.

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Bill Cosby Plays the Race Card

BarristerLet me put my cards on the table. I never did like Bill Cosby, didn’t think he was funny, and wondered why everyone went ga-ga over him, especially Oprah.

However, I never dreamt in a million years that he was a long-term sex offender, and yes, I believe the accounts told by every victim that has come forward.

I was shocked when Janice Dickinson described what happened to her and will willing to suspend belief, based on her history of drug and alcohol abuse. But when I read 1970’s top black model, Beverly Johnson’s article in the December 2014 Vanity Fair this week, I was overcome with anger and sorrow that this man who was lauded and honoured was an unrepentant rapist.

I didn’t know that he had settled a civil sexual assault case several years ago and had not heard that multiple women had come forward to be witnesses in the civil trial. I sure do understand why he settled the case… a trial would have been pubic, as would the evidence of the parade of thirteen female victims who were prepared to testify that they too had been drugged and assaulted by him.

Cosby has refused to make a public statement until yesterday when he said:

“Let me say this. I only expect the black media to uphold the standards of excellence in journalism and when you do that you have to go in with a neutral mind”.

Yes, Cosby is suggesting that ‘whitey” won’t give him a fair shake…a ridiculous suggestion from a man who thrived in the institutions and bastions of white America, from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst to Temple University, from the Playboy Mansion to overwhelmingly white Hollywood.

Journalists, of every race and colour, report the news. The news about Cosby is that as many as 37 women have come forward with allegations that all sound the same: Cosby drugged and assaulted them.

His wife of many decades, Camille Cosby, also spoke out yesterday saying that the man who has been described in the nation’s newspapers is not the man she knows. On that count I’d say she is correct.

Bill Cosby has managed to fool everyone!

Unlike Canada, where criminal charges can be filed in historical sexual abuse cases, America has a statute of limitations which means that after a certain date, no criminal charges can be filed against Cosby.

Here’s hoping that the civil lawsuit filed against Cosby this week will start a landslide of civil actions.

For all his fame and fortune, Cosby is by all accounts, an abusive, nasty man, the details of which will become clearer as the civil suits proceed. Of course, with the millions Cosby has it would not surprise me if he threw enough money at his “problem” to make it go away, like he did in 2006.

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

Hollywood’s Take on Divorce

DSC00567 - Version 2Today’s post looks at the lighter side of divorce and separation with a review of my top three “divorce” movies. And the winners are….

1. The War of the Roses

Who can forget the outrageous antics of Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner as the warring Roses, in this black comedy directed by Danny De Vito, who also plays a divorce lawyer in the film.

The Roses are a wealthy, sophisticated couple who despite appearances, hate one another. After Mrs. Rose asks for a divorce she advises her husband she will never leave her home and refuses to acknowledge that he has an equal interest in it.

With each refusing to move out, the couple live together in a state of unarmed warfare. To spite each other, they destroy most of the home furnishings and smash Royal Doulton china and Waterford crystal against the walls.

When Mr. Rose “accidently” runs over his wife’s cat, she retaliates by nailing the door of the sauna shut while he is in it. He nearly succumbs to heat stroke and dehydration.

As matters escalate, Mrs. Rose rigs their large hallway chandelier, hoping that it will fall on her husband, thus eliminating her problem. There is a surprise ending that I will not give away.

This 1989 film grossed $150 million at the box office and won three Golden Globes: Best Actor, Best Actress and Best Movie.

2. The First Wive’s Club

This 1996 comedy features Diane Keaton, Goldie Hawn and Bette Midler as three middle-aged wives who are dumped by their husbands in favour of younger women.

The three form a club vowing to wreak havoc in their ex-husbands’ lives and exact revenge. Goldie Hawn plays an aging actress who is a plastic surgery addict; Diane Keaton is an anxious neurotic with a lesbian daughter; and Bette Midler is a capable Jewish wife who sacrificed herself for her husband’s successful business.

The film has a great soundtrack including Dionne Warwick’s “Wives and Lovers”, Janis Joplin’s “Piece of My Heart”, Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive”, and Lesley Gore’s “You Don’t Own Me “.

Who can forget Ivana Trump’s cameo line “Don’t get mad, get everything!”

The film was a winner at the box office and helped revive the careers of its
three leading ladies. It was based on the novel of the same name written by Olivia Goldsmith, who died several years later during a facelift procedure.

3. Mrs. Doubtfire

Robin Williams plays a father, Daniel, with a lagging acting career, who loses his job, his marriage and his three kids. His wife, played by Sally Field, has a new boyfriend (Pierce Brosnan) and sole custody of the children. Daniel is given access to his children once a week on Saturday nights.

Desperate to see his kids, he notices that his wife is advertising for a nanny. With the help of his brother who is a film makeup professional, Daniel transforms into British nanny Mrs. Doubtfire.

The film is hilarious. Eventually the two oldest children realize Mrs. Doubtfire is their father and go along with the scam.

The “happy ending” includes Daniel on his own children’s television show playing Mrs. Doubtfire and his wife’s recognition that he is really a great dad.

The film was the second highest grossing film of 1993 only outstripped by Jurassic Park. It won an Oscar for Best Makeup and Golden Globes for Best Actor and Best Picture.

What are your favourites?

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang

MORE CELEBRITY DIVORCE RUMOURS

BarristerBeing a celebrity is not always an enviable status. Yes, when they are at the top of the heap, they get paid millions of dollars, have designers clamouring for them to wear their fashions, and get the best seats in the house, whether it’s a basketball game, tickets to the Oscars, or a front-row table at Wolfgang Puck’s.

But it can’t be any fun to read the constant speculation from the gossip mags that you’re heading for divorce. Recently, there’s a lot of dirt being dished about a whole bunch of Hollywood celebrities, apparently on the brink of separation and divorce.

In random order, Star, Us, People, TMZ, Buzzfeed, and so many more are telling divorce tales about the following couples:

-Sheri Shepard, late of TV’s “The View” and her husband are on the rocks, and to tantalize the public, Ms. Shepard has been sewered for allegedly walking away from their child who was recently hatched via a surrogate mother;

– Jay-Z and Beyoncé grabbed the headlines when Beyoncé’s sister, Solange, was observed assaulting Jay-Z in an elevator, ostensibly because he had done Beyoncé wrong. Some are saying that Rhianna is involved. Columnists are rabidly predicting that at the end of their $100 million dollar world tour, they will pack in their marriage. However, New York divorce guru, Raoul Felder, says that the rampant publicity is a boon for their tour and may be nothing more than “good business” for the pair;

-Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon are also rumoured to be heading towards Splitsville. The speculation is that the breakup is because of someone cheating, while others in the know say it’s because of Mariah’s diva-like behavior.

-Melanie Griffiths and Antonio Banderas separated a few months ago and now the paparazzi are following Melanie around Los Angeles, taking photos of her arm tattoo which is Antonio’s name in a heart, all the time wondering out loud when she will have it removed by laser.

-Barbara Streisand and James Brolin are another celebrity couple with rumours floating around. A recent article described Babs as very upset when she caught her 74-year-old husband ogling Kim Kardashian at an A List party in the Hamptons and we know he wasn’t looking at her eyes.

-Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are allegedly squabbling over when to have another baby and the stress has caused her to gain 20 lbs. She is apparently also in a panic because her dream marriage is a nightmare as Kanye keeps her on a tight leash with a GPS on her telephone so he can monitor her whenever he wishes.

Yes, there’s more: Ellen DeGeneres, Portia De Rossi, Michael Moore, Faith Hill, Tim McGraw, Kendra Wilkinson, David Duchovny, Tea Leoni, Robin Thicke, Paula Patton, Cuba Gooding Jr., Trace Adkin. Whew! It doesn’t end!

Lawdiva aka Georgialee Lang